heart of anger (book quote 5)

From The Heart of Anger, by Lou Priolo, on practicing biblical communication...

A fool does not delight in understanding, But only in revealing his own mind (Prov. 18:2).

Confessing one's sin to an offended brother is not simply an option for a Christian (James 5:16, Matt. 5:21-26), it is a command that you must follow if restoration is to occur.  Use of biblical terminology is important in the identification of a transgression if the child is going to "put-off" the old man and "put on" the new (see Col. 3:8-10 and Eph. 4:22-25).  "What I said was disrespectful, unkind and scornful" for example.  This biblical confession will also help train the child to evaluate behavior from God's perspective rather than man's.  Which things we also speak, not in words taught by human wisdom, but in those taught by the Spirit, combining spiritual (thoughts) with spiritual (words) (1 Cor. 2:13) (p. 70, some emphasis mine).